Heartless

What you are doing is distasteful and should not be done to anyone, especially family.  What kind of person are you?  I will tell you; a heartless one.  I do not understand how you can look at yourself in the mirror and be pleased at the person you turned out to be.

You don’t believe in the saying “What goes around comes around”?  Well, I do.  When everything in your life starts to go down the drain, one by one, it’ll be a huge eye opener.  And, you will have deserved it after the innumerable things you have done to hurt your own flesh and blood.

As life passes you by, you’ll regret every decision you’ve ever made.  Trust me.  It’s all going to come back to haunt you.  I won’t feel an ounce of sadness for you.

Human

We all have made mistakes; we all have made bad decisions.  We all fail at something.  It’s part of being human. 

            I want you to understand that it’s perfectly all right and I do not look down on you.  If anything, I am more proud of you because you acknowledged what you did was foolish and you did not let yourself get out of hand.

            One mistake should not erase all the good you have done.  One mistake should not erase all the effort you put into giving yourself a better life.

            Take this as a learning experience; that is the best thing you can do.  I stand by you and I am delighted to see the difference in you; you’re a different person now – stronger.  I certainly admire you for that.

            Just remember to think your actions out first before you act upon them.  If you need guidance, do not be afraid to ask.

Favoritism

If there is anything I have learned, it is to never play favorites with people.

You can have your favorite pair of earrings or your favorite pair high heels, but that is as far as it should go.

I have a lot of important people in my life.  My friends, every single one of them, are in my life for a reason.  All of them are treated equal.

So, yes, I do take offense when I know this is going on behind my back.  I do not appreciate it.  I am never your go-to person.  At one point I was.  So, yes, it hurts that, unexpectedly, I have been replaced.

I honestly do not think you realize you are doing it.  That is the sad part.  But, it’s truly not worth bringing up because it will start an argument that I am not willing to have.  It’s pointless because it will never change; it will never be how it used to be.

Criticism

Years ago I was the type of person who loathed the idea of letting anyone read my writing, let alone take a peek at it.  As I wrote in class, my eyes were peering at my surrounding classmates to make sure no one was trying to read my precious masterpiece.

As I got a bit older, I realized the reason I did not want anyone to read my stories.

I was afraid of criticism.  I was not going to take it well if someone told me they hated everything written on that piece of paper.

A few more years went by and it was time to stop hiding.  I was in the state of mind that if no one liked what I wrote, so be it.  I understood there would be a lot of people who could care less about the words I had written.

It only took me a little over ten years to say “hell with it”.  And, best of all, I began this blog purposely to publicly show what thoughts are inside this brain of mine.  It’s for all eyes to see.  I’m perfectly okay with that now.

I’ve learned that criticism only makes you stronger.  You learn from it; you improve.  It’s the only way for a brighter future.

True Colors

When you do someone a favor, do not throw it back in their face.  In fact, if you’re going to do that, then you might as well stop lending a hand.

Favors are done out of the kindness of our hearts; we don’t force you in any way to help.

If at any point you are going to complain, whether it’s a week after or a year later, you’re showing your true colors – and they aren’t pretty.

I’ve dealt with this plenty of times; it’s frustrating and upsetting.  How can you expect anyone to ever look at you the same again when you’ve shown a completely different side of you that we haven’t seen before?

Just remember, how you treat others is what you get back in return.

Priority

I want what’s best for you.

            I truly mean that.  I want to see you grow as a person.  I want to see you stand on your own two feet and rely on no one but yourself.  I want to see you succeed.

            Along the way, there will be bumps in the road.  It happens to the best of us.  And, it’s okay.  Pick yourself up again and continue to move forward.  Life is a learning experience.  Our mistakes make us a better person in the long run.  Never lose sight of the goals you have.

            Keep this in mind:  You need to be your first priority.  Always.