Life Isn't a Competition

A discussion in one of my classes inspired me to speak my mind a bit.

There’s an article on CNN debating on whether 11 year olds should join Facebook.

Seriously?

Are we really going to have this conversation?

Kids under 13 years of age do not have any business being on the internet.  If they want to keep in contact with their friends, there's a telephone.

Nowadays kids at 8 are getting Ipads, IPods, laptops, cell phones to text; it's ridiculous.  I know technology is big now and has been for a while, but it's getting out of hand.  When a 5 year old can work your Iphone better than you can, you have a problem.

When I was younger, I was outside playing basketball, playing catch, riding my bike, playing hopscotch.  Kids nowadays want to sit in the house all day in front of their television, or on their DS game system, or want to play games on their parent's phones.  And, yes, I'm aware that this doesn't go for every child, but for a majority of them it does.

It’s not of importance for a kid to have a Facebook account.  I understand how much the world has changed since I was younger; but honestly, life isn't a competition on who has the latest gadget.  It's not a popularity contest. These are the kind of things we should be teaching our children.

Adults

What is it with adults acting like they are still teenagers?

It’s nauseating to hear all these stories about “adults” spending their nights and mornings abusing alcohol, or how they are not being able to go to work because they are hung over, or not being able to afford life’s necessities because they spent their money on insignificant things.

When did it become “all right” to make these things a habit?  And, yes, it is a habit when they are happening multiple times a week or in a month.

Your “I know I shouldn’t have done it” or “I can’t keep doing this” is getting overplayed.  It’s time to stop sounding like a broken record because frankly, I’m done with hearing it.  I wash my hands to it.

Call me what you want, but I stand by what I feel is inappropriate and very much insensitive when the people in your life have to witness this sort of behavior.

You’re an adult.  So, it’s time to start acting like one.

Get your life together.

Heartless

What you are doing is distasteful and should not be done to anyone, especially family.  What kind of person are you?  I will tell you; a heartless one.  I do not understand how you can look at yourself in the mirror and be pleased at the person you turned out to be.

You don’t believe in the saying “What goes around comes around”?  Well, I do.  When everything in your life starts to go down the drain, one by one, it’ll be a huge eye opener.  And, you will have deserved it after the innumerable things you have done to hurt your own flesh and blood.

As life passes you by, you’ll regret every decision you’ve ever made.  Trust me.  It’s all going to come back to haunt you.  I won’t feel an ounce of sadness for you.

Human

We all have made mistakes; we all have made bad decisions.  We all fail at something.  It’s part of being human. 

            I want you to understand that it’s perfectly all right and I do not look down on you.  If anything, I am more proud of you because you acknowledged what you did was foolish and you did not let yourself get out of hand.

            One mistake should not erase all the good you have done.  One mistake should not erase all the effort you put into giving yourself a better life.

            Take this as a learning experience; that is the best thing you can do.  I stand by you and I am delighted to see the difference in you; you’re a different person now – stronger.  I certainly admire you for that.

            Just remember to think your actions out first before you act upon them.  If you need guidance, do not be afraid to ask.

Favoritism

If there is anything I have learned, it is to never play favorites with people.

You can have your favorite pair of earrings or your favorite pair high heels, but that is as far as it should go.

I have a lot of important people in my life.  My friends, every single one of them, are in my life for a reason.  All of them are treated equal.

So, yes, I do take offense when I know this is going on behind my back.  I do not appreciate it.  I am never your go-to person.  At one point I was.  So, yes, it hurts that, unexpectedly, I have been replaced.

I honestly do not think you realize you are doing it.  That is the sad part.  But, it’s truly not worth bringing up because it will start an argument that I am not willing to have.  It’s pointless because it will never change; it will never be how it used to be.